Monday, January 28, 2008

E is for Encouragement

Work on encouraging each other this week! Dictionary.com says that to encourage means to:
1.to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence: His coach encouraged him throughout the marathon race to keep on running.
2.to stimulate by assistance, approval, etc.: One of the chief duties of a teacher is to encourage students.

So, find special ways to encourage your children throughout the week, but try not to focus only on physical accomplishments, such as doing well academically or in sports. Encourage your children to emulate Jesus, by praising them when they share with a sibling, when they're obedient the first time, or when they have a good attitude. Maybe you could write an older child a letter telling him some qualities you admire in him and encouraging him to continue using these qualities to glorify God. You can also have your children help you write an encouraging letter to a sick relative or to their teachers. This would be a great way to get them involved in encouraging others!

Remember that children are mimics, so if you notice your children using a lot of negative language, evaluate your own language. As mothers, we often have the job of correcting, but it it also important to encourage. If children only hear "no" all day long, they are always focusing on the negative. Instead of using "no" for every action you want your children to stop or avoid, try using a distraction (for example, rather than telling your child "no" every time he touches the TV, say, "How about we play with puzzles instead?"). Sure, there are times when you have to use the word "no" or "stop", but save it for dangerous or very offensive behaviors. Also, look for ways to praise your children for good behavior throughout the day and this will encourage them to continue the good behavior (if they are receiving lots of attention for negative behavior, they may want to continue the negative behavior instead!). Teach your children to encourage each other through your example!

"May the God who gives endurance and
encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus," (Romans 15:5).

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